Out of everything there is to fear,
why fear your true self?
Ever feel like there’s a happier, truer version of you? One that’s energized, grateful, and living in harmony with absolutely everything?
You know it’s in there. You’ve felt it.
That little idea. The curiosity. That warm feeling you get when you’re sitting beneath a shade tree.
There’s a gentleness there. A kindness.
You willingly ease your grip on the past and future, bless your fears, and applaud yourself for the progress you’ve made on your path.
It’s liberating. Only, you don’t know how to hold onto it.
Listen closely, Dear One. That is you. And helping you stay there is exactly what I do.
Hi, I’m Leslie Ralph, and compassion is my passion.
I’m on a mission to leave the world a little brighter than I found it, one beautiful heart at a time. In my work as a psychologist, my writing, and my art, I help sensitive spirits fill their hearts with peace and love themselves for life.
How I Can Help You
I create things for people seeking tenderness and healing, the ones who want to bring the light back into their lives and love themselves unconditionally. Articles, visualizations, poetry, self-help…all for finding the clarity, building the courage, and practicing the compassion that fosters lasting inner peace and self-love.
Love turned inward can only ever magnify the love we have to share. This, loving ourselves, is how we’ll light up the world.
Your own love is curative. Your capacity for love is unlimited. And you are someone worth caring about. There are so, so many beautiful reasons to love yourself.
Over the years, I’ve discovered that it’s always about love, and I’m here to spread that message far and wide. My vision is a world where we’ve befriended the world again, in all its wildness. Where we aren’t afraid anymore, aren’t fighting. In this world, we lean on love moment by moment by moment by moment. One by one, we become soft wonderment and so appreciative of the connection we share.
Are you with me? Start here:
Read my collection of healing stories and words of validation and encouragement, infused with love and a little bit of magic. Here are a few of my personal favorites:
- For the courage to let the walls come down.
- For feeling the love flow through you again.
- Something from my epic poem in the making, Love, Child. Love.
- And for the voice in your head (it needs your love more than anything).
And grab a copy of all my free welcome gifts. Daily rituals for peace, meditations for serenity, clarifying inquiry, and poetry for your beautiful heart.
Books & Programs:
In my book, There, I Might Find Peace, I share poetry and meditations for peace, love, and strength. Each passage is about the transformation from hurting to hope and the journey toward loving yourself.
In my Clarity program, I teach you how to uncover what you really want, stop overthinking it, and start living an extraordinary life. We cover topics like understanding your body’s signals, respecting both your interconnectedness and independence, and developing the kind of consistency that builds your confidence. Clarity will open for enrollment again later this fall, but you can get started now with a free Clarity preview: the Clear Yesterday, Clear Tomorrow Bundle.
My newest book coming soon, How to Have Your Back: Simple Instructions for Loving Yourself through the Ups and Downs of Life is a guidebook for all of us seeking inner strength and serenity, no matter what life throws our way. Inside are lessons in the essential components of unconditional self-love and choosing how your life feels. Get started for free with the Beginning Guide or go straight to the book.
In A Class for Courage (coming soon this fall/winter!), I’ll teach you the guiding principles of living with courage and lead you through exercises that heal your story and transform the habits that keep you on what I call the fearful path. The class isn’t open for enrollment quite yet, but you can begin with my FREE Udemy Class From Fear to Courage (over 1,700 students have enrolled already!).
She strung up the stars to brighten this small space.
Over the last 15 years, I’ve immersed myself in all things healing – from positive psychology to vibrational alignment, and everything in between. Here are a few highlights from my professional journey:
- Featured writer on Positively Positive and regular contributor to major sites like Tiny Buddha and TUT.
- Author of the 5-star rated There, I Might Find Peace, poetry and meditations for peace, love, and strength.
- Licensed clinical psychologist specializing in self-compassion, mindfulness, and positive psychology for nearly 10 years.
- Published research in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships and the Child and Youth Care Forum and presentations at the American Psychological Association and Association for Cognitive and Behavioral Therapies.
- Working for major universities and health centers like the Texas Tech University and Texas Tech Health Sciences Center, University of Tennessee Health Sciences Center, Kaiser Permanente, and the University of Arizona.
- Invited to speak at the University of Arizona College of Medicine, the University of Arizona College of Law, and the University of Arizona Healthier Campus Expo on how students can be more resilient and successfully navigate the ups and downs of life.
- YouTuber for the University of Arizona Campus Health Service 😄
When I started this journey of healing, I just wanted to fix myself. I spent so much energy on being “good enough,” but all it ever did was make me disappear. I couldn’t have told you what I liked much less who I was. I didn’t feel whole or happy.
Over the years, I’ve practiced journaling, yoga, and meditation (and mindfulness and gratitude and optimism and self-compassion). I’ve visualized my best possible self, taken a picture a day to finally see the beauty around me, and looked for signs that the universe is listening.
I’ve learned a lot along the way, but the single most important thing I discovered was this:
Today, I know without a doubt there’s something in me worth nurturing. Just like I know there’s something in you.
Through trial and error, I’ve learned that loving and nurturing yourself requires intention. Attention. S p a c e. It means loving the part of me that’s scared, even when I’ve lost trust in myself and offering whatever I have to feed the spark in me, even when it feels like I’m so far from where I want to be.
And this is exactly why I do the work I do. This is my wish for us all: That we remember how to love ourselves come what may.
Today, I value awe, depth, inspired growth, and real, good work. My tools are love, creativity, open-heartedness, and introspection. And I believe that my purpose is to be moved, to learn what it means to inhabit this human body on this wild and magic planet we call home, and to bring more love to the world and all her beings.
Welcome to my little corner of the universe.
May this space be a sanctuary from the things that bring you down, down, down. And may it fill your heart with peace.
Praise (Thank you for that)
Here’s what students and readers are saying:
“Two words: -Simply amazing!!! :D”
“This was a neat course. I compiled all the downloadable PDFs and made myself a little workbook with some blank pages for journaling. This made the course engaging. I appreciate the resources. Helpful information as well.”
“Thought it was a really good course. It had a lot of specifics–unlike some of the Udemy courses I’ve taken–and the visualization exercise included was fantastic!”
“I found this little gem at just the right time in my life. It’s a beautifully written book! It has already moved me to tears several times and I’m not even done with the whole book. Thank you, Leslie, for sharing your light with us all.”
“Leslie Ralph speaks to my soul. Uplifting and gratifying.”
“I am so touched by the reflections and emotions in the author’s book, truly. I can say that I loved ALL of it, but especially the pieces entitled “Before”, “Welcome Home”, “Instructions”, “I’m Ready”, “Bring The Stars Back To Your Eyes”, and “Note to Self”, all for different reasons. I DEEPLY resonated with “Affirmation for the Truth”, and I have several people I could dedicate “1,000 Flames” to immediately. The most telling question of all, perhaps, was the one asked in “True Courage”: “Of all the things in this world there are to fear, why fear your true self?” This is a deeply beautiful and thoughtful work that will resonate with so many.”
“What a treat! I found this book touching and beautiful, lyrical and, at times, my heart actually raced because I thought “yes, me too!! Me too!!”. I loved the simple beauty of not only the words but the drawings. They all brought peace to my soul. My very favorites are: Before, Starting Here, I’m Ready, Affirmation for Truth, Light Feels Like This and 1,000 Flames (oh the imagery with that one!). Thank you. This is truly a gift you’ve created and I hope it touches many, many more people the way it touched me. I’m ready to go back and read it over again and bookmark passages and pages so I can pull them out when I do feel the darkness around me and when I need to remember the light. A beautiful message. Highly recommend…”
“Only someone who has spent time in her own darkness can write with credibility about light. In order for the light to shine brightly, darkness must be present. It is a good little pocket book to carry with you.”
The parts of me I remembered again
After all this time
making herself disappear,
she performed the miracle
of bringing herself back to life.
-From There, I Might Find Peace
I spent too many years not knowing who I was or what I wanted. I figured I’d find happiness in achievement or size 00 jeans, but it was never there. Through the very practices I share here, I rediscovered the spark in me worth nurturing. So, here’s me when I’m not writing for adults.
I write picture books with my children. We’re working on one now under the pen name Calliope Ink.
I’m going on my 3rd year of a 365-day photo challenge. That means most days, you’ll find me sneaking up on my husband and kids with a camera.
The clarinet was my first true love. I majored in clarinet performance at Vanderbilt University. Back then, the opera pit was my favorite place to be.
When I was little, I wanted to be a professional figure skater. Debbie Thomas = my hero. (And when I wasn’t pretending to be her, I was practicing my Tiffany, Martika, and Debbie Gibson routines – on roller skates! It was most excellent.)
I guess there’s always been a spark in me,
I just had to give myself permission to find it.
Isn’t it time you found yours?
YES! I WANT TO FIND THE PEACE AND LOVE INSIDE OF ME.
Give me the Ritual for Receiving.
…And all these welcome gifts, too!